do u really know the people around u?

I'm afraid I am writing my first post on a topic that is a little dull and serious in nature..[it can lull u guys to sleep!!]...well,it sometimes happens that things don't work in your way.You might sometimes feel that u know the people around you well...but do you really?...that is the question to ask and surprisingly in most cases u can never be sure, can you?

Life is full of surprises..no doubt about it..It is beautiful and tempts u to live it more and more..but it has its own share of shocks too !!...we all have had our good and bad experiences with people..These are the people we think we KNOW in and out..We tend to spend so much time with our loved ones that we tend to feel that we have understood them completely..In most cases, we see them either as how we wanna c them or as how they show themselves to us..Its very natural, isn't it? All of us want to be liked by our friends and people for who we care. Our obsession for acceptance often makes us behave in most generous and charming manner.And what is wrong to be liked by people you wanna call as YOURS?!!.But as time passes, our relationships become more strong and secure..people become more relaxed with each other ,start shedding their formalities and let their pretenses fall...And we finally get to see the person for who he/she REALLY is..OH OH!!!BAAM!!!! Problem has occurred..we no more feel that we know those same people anymore!!we feel that those people that we THOUGHT we knew so well have CHANGED...

Changed?..wud u call a person ,who cares for u so much and wants no more pretenses in ur relationship , as a changed person?. Isn't it a slap in the face!!.C'mon guys....here is a person who now trusts u enough that he/she can be himself/herself wid u now and share the real self wid u without any hesitation and u feel he/she is no more the way u thought him/her to be..and vice versa..

Unfair ,isn't it?...on both of you...The fact is that, in most cases, neither of u have changed."Time is the name of the game".People tend to behave differently at times.Its just that people who previously were a little reserved and formal ,towards u, are now more involved, understanding and simply themselves wid you.. It hardly means that they have changed..It just indicates that the situations or circumstances or Time (all three terms can be used interchangeably) have changed.Little do we realise this when we are a part of it and facing this kinda scenario..But if we closely analyse it with an open mind, clear heart and no prejudice, we will know that its not the person in question who has changed but the situation. The least we can do at such times for the person u care about is give him/her all the support u can, stand by them, learn to take them as they are, keep ur expectations low and ur understanding at its pinnacle..Difficult as it surely is, rest assured , it will pay off.Ur affection will be reciprocated to its fullest.

So rather than sulking and crying over the fact that u FEEL that people u cared for have changed , try to realise that they have'nt changed..They are simply more closer to you now, than ever, and are now ready to show u their true sides and u are being tooo arrogant to accept them that way. Try to realise that they now trust u enough to show u what they are actually made up of..don't turn away from them.Embrace them and cherish them the way they are...coz even u are loved just the way u are and not how ur loved ones want u to be!! be urself and let others be themselves too!!

Trust me you will be a lot more happier than wat you are now...bye for now...hope u cud relate to wat i said..tc .bye